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On True Love: A Couple in Chicago

Books & Words, Love and MarriageAlexandra king2 Comments

Did you guys see the wonderful old New Yorker interview with a young Barack and Michelle Obama that's been doing the rounds online this week?

In 1996, photographer Mariana Cook began a photography project on couples in America. She interviewed the Obamas, and took the photo above- aren't they adorable here? Fresh faced, long-limbed, determined of countenance. Michelle's body language here is so revealing and beautiful, too, a strong and protective ying to B's languorous yang. Reading their words now is so wonderful ("There is a strong possibility that Barack will pursue a political career" muses Michelle) but it's what Barack says about his then wife of four years that moves me so much. I don't think I've read such a pure description of true love in a very long time.

"Michelle is a tremendously strong person, and has a very strong sense of herself and who she is and where she comes from. But I also think in her eyes you can see a trace of vulnerability that most people don’t know, because when she’s walking through the world she is this tall, beautiful, confident woman. There is a part of her that is vulnerable and young and sometimes frightened, and I think seeing both of those things is what attracted me to her. And then what sustains our relationship is I’m extremely happy with her, and part of it has to do with the fact that she is at once completely familiar to me, so that I can be myself and she knows me very well and I trust her completely, but at the same time she is also a complete mystery to me in some ways. And there are times when we are lying in bed and I look over and sort of have a start. Because I realize here is this other person who is separate and different and has different memories and backgrounds and thoughts and feelings. It’s that tension between familiarity and mystery that makes for something strong, because, even as you build a life of trust and comfort and mutual support, you retain some sense of surprise or wonder about the other person."

I'm going to miss these two.